If you hung out with us for a day, you’d hear lots of belly laughs from corny inside jokes, catch us stealing smooches around the house, and see lots of cuddles with our three little love bugs. Our home is intentionally filled with joy amidst our fast-paced lives.

But it hasn’t always been that way.

If you saw us 10 years ago when we were seriously dating, you would have observed our deep love for each other and the tension of not knowing how our love would weather all the differences that were trying to rip us apart - picking careers with opposite working hours, living in different cities, having different friend groups, enjoying different passions, being from different cultures. Though the uncertainty was palpable at times, our love for each other was deeper.

Despite all the unknowns, we knew that God had led us to each other and there was a purpose in the Earth we could only accomplish together. We trusted His plan for our individual lives and the one He was guiding us toward.

We said “I do” a few years after we graduated college and following a few blissful newly wed months, the demands of life started vying for our attention, pulling us in what felt like opposite directions. At one point, we were two ships passing in the night, working opposite schedules and hardly seeing each other. Though we slept in the same bed, at times the distance between us felt like we were in different rooms. The strain of growing careers, changing desires, and lacking a unified vision greatly impacted our connection.

We were on a two lane highway headed toward the past that we had both experienced first-hand, being children of divorced parents. We wanted to be unified and connected without sacrificing our individual drive and desire to make an impact in the world. We just didn’t know how until we had a special couple mentor us, teaching us how to be strong individuals with an even stronger relationship.

Contrary to popular belief, we are more connected, unified, and intentional in pursuing our marriage now, with a toddler and infant twins, than when we had less responsibility and time commitments.

The principles we learned and applied changed the way we experience life and love. We’ve been coaching other couples for the past 7 years on how to have the same results in their relationships and want to share them with you.